FATHERLESS SYNDROME

 

Fatherless daughter syndrome is a disorder of the emotional system that leads to repeated dysfunctional relationship decisions, especially in the areas of trust and self-worth. It is caused by the lack of a father/daughter bond, which leads to the daughter not having a clear understanding of what a healthy, loving male/female relationship looks like. It can be a lifelong syndrome if the symptoms go unrecognized and unacknowledged.

The first relationship a little should have with a man is the one she has with her father. This relationship gives life to what that little girl, who will eventually become a woman, will believe she deserves in her relationship with men. It is meaningful, touching, life-shaping and very necessary.

Girls need to be taught by their fathers about men so when they grow up into women, they would be able to acquire healthy relationships. Fathers need to nurture their daughters in order for them to have a secure sense of themselves as individuals and as desirable women. If fathers do no provide this type of nurturing then the daughters will suffer from grief and search for the missing father’s love somewhere else.

A father also has the responsibility of advising their daughters about how men are, what they value, how they get to respect women and so on. This helps the daughter to create their ideal man in the future, and that is why we often here someone saying “I want a man exactly like my dad”. If daughters cannot acquire this information and nurturing from their fathers due to their absence then they will fail to cultivate healthy relationships leading them to develop negative characteristics.

The daughter can grow into an insecure woman, who will have a low self-esteem, making it more difficult to overcome obstacles throughout her life.